This is a total rant! I have only been back at work now for a week or so, and juggling my personal life, and my work life has been alittle tricky. I am just go-go-go at this point, and I am having a hard time keeping up with all my emails.
There is nothing more frustratating then gentlemen who write to me one day, and not even a day later leave comments like:
“Well I guess because I haven’t heard back from you, you must have found someone else, and I will just forget all about it”
“Did I do something to piss you off, why are you ignoring me?”
“You must be busy, and I guess I will leave you alone now and just forget all about us”
I mean, literally, these guys aren’t allowing me a full day to respond! The last five days, I have not had time to sit down at my computer at all, to respond to emails, and to take care of business. I post my ad, and then go about my day.
The problem is, most are used to me being able to respond to their emails right away, and when I am unable to, they think I am ignoring them. I recieve all my emails on my cell phone, and if I get an appointment request for within the next 24 hours, I try to take care of that first. Anything else I try to respond to as soon as I have free time to do so. And I ALWAYS start answering emails in the order of the oldest first, then work my way to the most recent.
I love all my clients, and friends so very much, but lately it seems like a few are being really almost too demanding. I am trying my best to keep up, and to please everyone. But please understand, I have a personal life, and sometimes it can get ULTRA hectic! I have had a family member here, and basically she has allowed for me to get anything done, because she was over my shoulder during everything little thing I am doing!
I finally got rid of her, and have spend the last two days just trying to get my personal life back on track along with my business life where it needs to be.
I am supposed to head to Grand Junction in two days, and I haven’t even had the time to advertise for it.
Just because I have posted an ad, it doesn’t mean I am sitting next to my computer waiting for emails and calls to come in. I can post my ad from my cell phone, when I am out doing errands!
Another thing, sometimes when I get on TOB, it is to destress from my day, and to just take my mind off everything else. If you see me on TOB, and I haven’t replied to your email, you are not the only one, and please give me more time. Often times I am logged on through my cell phone, and I am just browsing while travelling somewhere.
I would say that if you email me, and you haven’t heard back in two days, email me again. If you are emailing for same day appointment, give me like a few hours, or just call me!
Okay, sorry for the rant! I absolutely love pleasing my clients, and I love growing friendships, the only downside is that I can’t keep up with all the expectations. Many providers do not go out of their way to talk unless they are setting up appointments, and they think I am crazy for putting up with as much as I do, lol.
PLEASE BE PATIENT WITH ME! Thanks!
So I ended up having to leave Junction early, which I knew I was going to have to leave sooner than originally planned so I could go do an overnight in Wyoming. Well after I got the small deposit from the guy in Wyoming, I proceeded to do a large amount of driving on to Wyoming. To make a long story short, I showed up (after driving 8 hours), and the gentlemen had no money and wanted me to give him my time for free.
After being no showed the week prior, and having my gracious discounts taken advantage of, and now this.. I have just about had it. I am such a nice person, and I REALLY go out of my way to make you guys happy, and this is how I am repaid? I see why other providers are so jaded, and I really can’t blame them.
I will be re-wording my rates page tomorrow, and I more than likely will no longer offer discounts to those that are not my regulars. Overnights and traveling more than an hour will now have a fee and a bigger deposit. I will not have my time wasted any more. I take my business very seriously and try to be professional. It is *really* getting to me to be taken advantage of by guys that do not see my time as valuable.
♥I plan on only seeing clients a short amount of time each week, and I can’t afford to be no showed and shorted… I am so sorry if this will inconvenience any of my potential trusting clients, I hope it doesn’t effect our budding relationship to-be ♥ ♥
This week was supposed to be so great, and it turned out to totally suck ;o( I had two NCNS’s, and two cancellations. I am feeling really taken advantage of, and I am unsure how to handle it. My provider friends are saying it is because I am too nice, and I need to be more firm, but I don’t want to be jaded like them.. I don’t understand why people choose to take advantage of people like me, but it is mean, and it really sucks.
The ncns really really pissed me off because I spent $80 on a room in his area, only to be stood up after I spent acouple of weeks “getting to know” him via email. I do not mind emailing, but I can understand why some providers opt out of it because it sucks taking time, and not being rewarded for it. Another guy cancelled after I sent him my face pictures with the excuse ” You are too hot for me” WTF did he expect, an ugly girl?
I am aggitated because another really good client that kept telling me how broke he is, saw an asp today for $350 dollars! I give my discounts because I feel that regardless of your income, you should be able to have fun, and I like to make it somewhat affordable for my good clients to do so. But, shouldn’t I be compensated then if you can afford it? I will never ever give him another discount now because I feel so used. It really bugged me to give him a nice discount, and have him not even tip me, but yet he can afford a girl way above me rate.
I cried today, and I think it is because I am stressed out.. I am trying to stay on top of all my requests, and the ones that I was able to schedule blew me off. I turned away quite a few clients this week, only to be mistreated by the ones I chose to see.
I don’t understand the lack of respect, and why would any one be so inconsiderate? I am looking forward to Nebraska and it will be nice to get away from this mess here in Denver. Atleast when I travel, the clients are almost always respectable, grateful, and want to have a good time.
Rant over~ I need some cheering up after all this rejection and abuse! Anyone want to cuddle?
I recently was on TOB, and I pmed a new client, letting him know that I would be happy to see him. I do not mind seeing new friends at all, as long as I feel safe and comfortable, and can verify you in other ways. The new client was concerned because I no longer offer reviews, which is understandable. I have never had a bad session that I can remember.( I used to have 28+ good reviews)
I have had sessions where we just didn’t click, but I am sure that happens to everyone. So I gave a few handles to this client, and let him know he was welcome to ask around about me, and that if he wanted to do a 411, I am sure nobody would have anything but good things to say about me.
I was wrong ;o( My feelings were soo hurt to see that a hobbyist had said, “Don’t waste your time.” Like I was some kind of ripoff/rob. It really wouldn’t have bothered me to have heard, “Not my type, wasn’t what I was looking for”… But that I am not even worth somebodies time of day, really really really hurt my feelings! I feel that I really go out of my way for my friends. From the candles, to the music, to the amenities in the bathroom, to what I wear, and how I present myself~ I really try hard to make a good impression. I never clock watch, I am not greedy, I offer discounts for various things, I am geniuwinely <sp?> a good person. My prior reviews all said how nice I am.
I can not think of why this person had something to say about me, and I really hope that it doesn’t influence many’s decisions on seeing me. I know you can’t please everyone, but to say that I am a waste of time just broke my heart. ♥
I pmed this client, and asked when, if ever he’d seen me, and I am awaiting a reply.. Not sure I will get one, but I would like to know the honest opinion. I tried to write a mini rebuttal on TOB, but the mod deleted it, which irked me, because if it was a review, I would be allowed my side of the story. But I am not even allowed to defend myself which really really really sucks!
I shut my pm’s off on TOB, and do not plan on signing in for awhile. TOB always brings me more trouble than needed. I enjoy some of the discussion, but it just isn’t worth the harm.
That is my two cents, and hopefully the good will prevail, because even though I opt to not have reviews, it doesn’t mean I am a bad provider. I actually feel I am a better provider than I was before. I definitely try harder, and go out my way more than I ever have, because I don’t allow reviews, I want to stand out.
Well I am off to bed, I have a big day with my travels to Cheyenne and all.. Thanks for reading, and I hope to see you soon!
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