Adelle Ashby

This week was supposed to be so great, and it turned out to totally suck ;o( I had two NCNS’s, and two cancellations. I am feeling really taken advantage of, and I am unsure how to handle it. My provider friends are saying it is because I am too nice, and I need to be more firm, but I don’t want to be jaded like them.. I don’t understand why people choose to take advantage of people like me, but it is mean, and it really sucks.

The ncns really really pissed me off because I spent $80 on a room in his area, only to be stood up after I spent acouple of weeks “getting to know” him via email. I do not mind emailing, but I can understand why some providers opt out of it because it sucks taking time, and not being rewarded for it. Another guy cancelled after I sent him my face pictures with the excuse ” You are too hot for me” WTF did he expect, an ugly girl? 

I am aggitated because another really good client that kept telling me how broke he is, saw an asp today for $350 dollars! I give my discounts because I feel that regardless of your income, you should be able to have fun, and I like to make it somewhat affordable for my good clients to do so. But, shouldn’t I be compensated then if you can afford it? I will never ever give him another discount now because I feel so used. It really bugged me to give him a nice discount, and have him not even tip me, but yet he can afford a girl way above me rate.

 I cried today, and I think it is because I am stressed out.. I am trying to stay on top of all my requests, and the ones that I was able to schedule blew me off. I turned away quite a few clients this week, only to be mistreated by the ones I chose to see.

I don’t understand the lack of respect, and why would any one be so inconsiderate?  I am looking forward to Nebraska and it will be nice to get away from this mess here in Denver. Atleast when I travel, the clients are almost always respectable, grateful, and want to have a good time.

Rant over~ I need some cheering up after all this rejection and abuse! Anyone want to cuddle?

I got my plane tickets this evening! Yeay!! I can’t wait to go to Nebraska, and try something new. I still have some availability, so please shoot me an email if you are interested in meeting! I look forward to it!

Got acouple things to run by my groupies.. LOL I have groupies believe it or not! Hahaha.. Does that mean I get groupie sex? How haaawt!

About my availability this week, I have some availability on Friday in Wheatridge, and could maybe do an appointment this weekend at my girlfriends house off 88th and Washington. But other than that, I am booked ;o) Wanna know what you are missing out on? Schedule with me! I was blessed to have acouple of new clients prebook, and a ouple of repeats.  Wyoming went well also, and I will be back in about a month! Sexy cowboys, I am ready to be roped in all over again.

I would like to also address some stuff that is happening on TOB. My old reviews have been posted, which is cool I suppose because it will show that I am not a rip off (DUH), but please be respectful of my privacy and do not write crude or lewd reviews of me. Those that know me, know that I like TER reviews the best because, 1) you have to pay to read them and 2) I get out of town clientelle. This 411 that had me upset, is no longer an issue.. I think I know that the so called hobbyist never saw me.

If you have seen TOB, you will see that I also have a website directed towards my out of town clientelle.. TrinitySwane.com  Please acknowledge my rates here on AdelleAshby.com. Trinity Swane is my TER website, and meant for my clients that come from out of town and for when I am traveling (which I plan on doing alot more of). Nothing tricky about it, and I mean no harm. Hopefully you understand that… I caught some slack from acouple of providers about it, saying that I am intentionally trying to trick clients. No, I am not.. But when TOB wouldn’t allow me to take down my old reviews for my privacy, I didn’t want to lose out on my clientelle that I get from other states, they tend to be the appointments that I like- multi hours ;o)

So I scheduled a new photo shoot on the 29th with my wonderful photographer. YEAY!!!! I can not wait! I got some new poses I would like to try out, that I think will look good, and this time Tonee has a better idea of what I like/want so I think this should go great.  www.debelladiva.com Check her out, if you haven’t already. She does amazing family portraits as well, and I am always trying to send people her way.. www.toneelawrence.com

Alrighty groupies… Thanks as always for reading.. Maybe one of these days I will mention a special for the people that read my blog.. I appreciate those that take the time to get to know me!

♦♦♦♦♦♦♦OH! One last thing♦♦♦♦♦♦♦

If you have emailed me, and haven’t had a response within a day or two, please re-email me. With the traveling, and my busy week, I am having a hard time keeping up with my emails. I usually am really good about emailing, so please do not take it personal. Also, Microsoft outlook is deleting my messages, and I can’t figure out how to get it to stop. I checked the settings, and it all looks right for me, so I am SORRY friends

Wyoming was so much fun.. And cowboys are HOT! I love the couple of cowboys I got to meet. Whew, I am still hot and bothered thinking about what a great time it was. Wyoming, plan on seeing alot more of me!

I had to come home a day early, but I will be returning to Casper tomorrow, and this next week is booking up fast here in Denver. I do not plan on advertising much, or seeing many people.. So I definitely recommend prebooking if you can.

Wednesday Fort Collins again, and I still have acouple of the suprised left over to share! Who likes toys?

♥Wow, I have just had the most wonderful week.. First with taking so many days off, then coming back and meeting some of the coolest clients. I have grown relationships with two widowers, one handicapped, and another sweet gentlemen that has yet to find the perfect gal.

I can not begin to tell you how taking the time to write out my website is really paying off. I think I got the message across really clear that I would like to meet people that enjoy affection, cuddling, and want the whole GFE experience.♥♥♥♥♥ PEOPLE NEED LOVE♥♥♥♥♥♥

It honestly isn’t about the money persay, yes, I do need money, but I get such a sastisfaction out of making people happy. It makes me feel good when I hear thank you, and I hear how I have made your day/month.

You guys know who you are, and thank you for making me feel so special, and making our time so worthwhile

I recently was on TOB, and I pmed a new client, letting him know that I would be happy to see him. I do not mind seeing new friends at all, as long as I feel safe and comfortable, and can verify you in other ways. The new client was concerned because I no longer offer reviews, which is understandable.  I have never had a bad session that I can remember.( I used to have 28+ good reviews)

 I have had sessions where we just didn’t click, but I am sure that happens to everyone. So I gave a few handles to this client, and let him know he was welcome to ask around about me, and that if he wanted to do a 411, I am sure nobody would have anything but good things to say about me.

I was wrong ;o(  My feelings were soo hurt to see that a hobbyist had said, “Don’t waste your time.” Like I was some kind of ripoff/rob. It really wouldn’t have bothered me to have heard, “Not my type, wasn’t what I was looking for”… But that I am not even worth somebodies time of day, really really really hurt my feelings! I feel that I really go out of my way for my friends. From the candles, to the music, to the amenities in the bathroom, to what I wear, and how I present myself~ I really try hard to make a good impression. I never clock watch, I am not greedy, I offer discounts for various things, I am geniuwinely <sp?> a good person. My prior reviews all said how nice I am.

I can not think of why this person had something to say about me, and I really hope that it doesn’t influence many’s decisions on seeing me. I know you can’t please everyone, but to say that I am a waste of time just broke my heart. ♥

I pmed this client, and asked when, if ever he’d seen me, and I am awaiting a reply.. Not sure I will get one, but I would like to know the honest opinion. I tried to write a mini rebuttal on TOB, but the mod deleted it, which irked me, because if it was a review, I would be allowed my side of the story. But I am not even allowed to defend myself which really really really sucks!

I shut my pm’s off on TOB, and do not plan on signing in for awhile. TOB always brings me more trouble than needed. I enjoy some of the discussion, but it just isn’t worth the harm.

That is my two cents, and hopefully the good will prevail, because even though I opt to not have reviews, it doesn’t  mean I am a bad provider. I actually feel I am a better provider than I was before. I definitely try harder, and go out my way more than I ever have, because I don’t allow reviews, I want to stand out.

Well I am off to bed, I have a big day with my travels to Cheyenne and all.. Thanks for reading, and I hope to see you soon!

So I have been doing some thinking lately, and I am not going to be stressed out about working so much. I think I shall manage my money alittle better, and just roll with the flow. This week was wonderful to me! I took about four days off, and I was totally cool with it.

Just because you see me posting, doesn’t mean I was working, more than likely I am posting for exposure to prebooks. My trip to Wyoming is full of multi hour appointments, which I am way excited about. I love bonding, and sharing that time together. Usually when I travel, I book fast because I get  mostly multi hour appointments.

I plan on concentrating on traveling more, and not stressing over Denver’s business. I really really really enjoy my regular clientelle, and they make me way happy… And if I make a few more, COOL! But if not, no stress off my back. I figure if I travel away to a town in demand for one weekend, and save my money, it will allow me more time to stay home and relax on my other endeavors. I have  a small business that I would like to put more energy into, and really get it going. I love what I do, because I do not stress my self out about it, and the last few days really put that into perspective for me.

I traveled to Wyoming today to get a taste of the scene, and it was fun! I like Cheyenne! So I will be back in a week, please do not miss the opportunity to see me there!

I will visit Cheyenne for a day or two, and Casper for a day or two depending on prebooks. I encourage prebooks because when I have traveled in the past I have booked up fast. I do not say that just to drum up business, I sincerely mean it ♥

I also visited Fort Collins yesterday, and I already have had another inquire to return. I will keep my Calendar up to date on my traveling information, please check it out!

I also added a page today on my website specifically for my rates when traveling. Please check it out also!

I look forward to visiting your town!

Sorry if you keep browsing my site, and I am changing it while you are viewing it. LOL There are so many wordpress themes, and I am just trying to figure out which one I like  the best. I found some on this website that I REALLY liked, but can not figure out how to get more pages, then just the ones they designate. http://www.ezwpthemes.com/

PICTURES!!! I am going to do some impromtu pictures with a girlfriend here within the next couple of days, please keep your eyes peeled! I love my pictures by toneelawrence, and hope to do a new photo shoot with her at the end of the month because I am still losing weight slowly but surely!

Okie dokie friends, I am blogged out, lol!

Kisses, and hope to see you soon!

P.S. Fort Collins anyone?

Two things to share..

 Moving on from my rant about ding dong bloggers (such as myself  now ;o), I have a permanant incall up north now. I will still travel down to the DTC area, but with the new move I needed to settle some where for my regular friends. Interested in meeting me at a private residence? Please call, I look forward to meeting you!!